The achievement wheel is a treasured American institution. We are groomed early on in a structured education system to strive for that golden place of success defined by titles and prestige, our own small piece of the American dream. As the 2010 documentary “Race to Nowhere” points out, these pressured expectations have been produced and reinforced by the culture at large, from colleges to parents to workplaces, and these messages get internalized by kids from a young age. Many of us continue on this treadmill of achievement and expectations long after we have left grammar school and grades behind…
And I was no exception.
After perfecting my high school educational manifesto and making my way through an Ivy League college degree, the next obvious step for me seemed to be the world of cubicles and commuting. When I took my first job in 2006 as an entry-level publicist at a corporate book publishing company in New York City, I thought I had made it.
As the new year is in full swing, I’m looking back at the past month or two and am grateful for the opportunities that popped up to share more of my story and talk about psychology, energy healing and women.
In December, Joanna Chan and I were interviewed on WBAI The Positive Mind radio show in New York City in anticipation of our December 13th womens’ event, Trusting Transition.
We had a small intimate ground of women discussing and sharing their own paths and hopes for moving forward in the New Year. Through energy healing, intention-setting, discussing needs and values, and guided meditations we all (even Joanna and I!) made shifts to set us up for the fresh energy of 2018.
On the Positive Mind radio show, Joanna and I got to speak more about women in transition, our own personal transitions, and how to confront fears and blocks to change. We even spoke about how focused intention-setting and groups of women coming together in support of one another can be powerful to elicit changes. Listen here (part of the audio on the recording gets cut off in the beginning, so to skip that part start at about 3 min in):
Then, on December 31st, I was pleased to debut an interview with my friend and meditation facilitator, Jeff Carreira. In the discussion, we go in all different directions, speaking about Jeff’s kundalini awakening, my kundalini experience, what starts to happen after kundalini awakens in the body, and what specifically started to unfold for me afterwards. We also talk more about energy healing and the future of psychology as we start to learn more about and understand these sorts of phenomena as a culture.
I truly believe that. Women and those who stand with women in genuine solidarity will be the impetus that forces changes that have been too long in the making. Spreading love, compassion, and tolerance as opposed to bigotry and separation consciousness is not the purview of special snowflakes or “weak crybabies.” It’s actually the hardest thing we will ever do or ever undertake on this planet of ours.
It is much harder to love and accept the neighbor you disagree with than to spurn and hate them. Liberalism and conservatism are false divides and beyond the point in the larger picture of this planetary play of ours.
What is in our hearts? What is it that we really want to see?
These should be the questions we ask of ourselves and each other everyday. We may differ on how we wish to achieve it or the political talking points but partnering to create movement and change is the important part, even on a very small micro-scale or individual level, regardless of the inevitable dissent and bumps along the way. And those who oppose equal rights and tolerance for all should be opposed with all the might and force of our ancestors behind us who lived this reality and rejected it.
You know when you read two pages into a book and know it’s going to be one of “those ones.” You all know what I’m talking about. One of those books that goes on your life-changing list, your “must-read” recommendations, one you’ll return to over and over until the edges are creased, the cover abandoned, and the pages stained with coffee or tears or both. Continue reading “Untaming of the Shrew”→