Personal Stories, Spirituality

How Spirituality Found Me (a former skeptic)

I’ve contemplated writing about my spiritual awakening experience for a while now, but it has never quite felt like the right time.   Words aren’t always adequate to capture an experience that’s both deeply personal and is best understood as a felt, embodied sense rather than something that can be described and analyzed.  But I am going to try my best because it feels important to begin sharing how my own path has included twists and turns for those who may have had their own interesting, unexplainable experiences.

I grew up within the Catholic religion, experiencing all the prescribed milestones throughout my childhood: Baptism, First Communion, and Confirmation.   I even had the opportunity to visit the Vatican and see the pope from afar in my teens. While I always appreciated the rich tradition that Catholicism provided, beautiful religious art and architecture especially, as I grew into my late teens and early 20’s I began to look at religion as a cultural signpost, a representation of my heritage, rather than as a spiritual tradition.   I recognized that religion did provide spiritual support for many and good moral foundations, but it had never fully connected the dots for me and the dogma didn’t seem to fit my developing sense of self-autonomy.  And so I left it at that….without the drive to explore further, I labeled myself as agnostic in my young adulthood and visited Church only on holidays.

Science and research became another “religion” of sorts for me in my late 20’s as I entered graduate school for psychology.  It seemed to provide solidity in a way that was comforting, in a way that I could get behind.  There was a prescribed sequence of inquiry, analysis, and data that research provided.  My analytical left brain found satisfaction and excitement in finding new ways to explore the world of human nature through reading, citing, and conducting research.  I felt like I had a greater understanding of the world, a foundation from which to base my decisions, actions, and worldview.  And I did….but little did I know, as I entered my final year of graduate school, that things were about to get a whole lot less linear.

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General

Now offering Skype Coaching and Healing Sessions

I’m excited to announce that I am now offering more remote coaching and energy healing service for those outside of New York State…

Are you looking for a clearing and reset of your energy field and a deeper dive into removing the mental, emotional, and energetic blocks holding you back from moving forward?  Are you looking for a deeper insight into subconscious core beliefs and intuitive guidance on specific life concerns?  Try an Energy Renewal session: http://healrenewtherapy.com/energy-psychology-1/

Do you want to refine your life goals and create your next steps in alignment with your highest vision and path?  Are you a spiritual seeker or on a healing path looking to get in tune with your own higher guidance, define your soul-based values, or dive deeper into shadow work and clear old beliefs or traumas?  Try online Skype transpersonal coaching sessions, which blend a focus on your everyday life goals with the path your Soul is destined to take: http://healrenewtherapy.com/transpersonal-coaching/

Tara Cuskley, Psy. D. is a licensed psychologist, Reiki Master, and energy healer based in New York City. For more information, visit: http://www.healrenewtherapy.com

Or contact drtaracuskley@healrenew.com to schedule.

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activism, Spirituality

The Great Awakening

We are in the midst of an awakening.

As Trump and his colleagues continue to bulldoze their way through governing, more and more people are recognizing what’s valuable and important in true leadership and waking up to the potential of leadership within themselves.  Many are waking up to the state of the world as is, versus what we know it could be.  Despite outer appearances, we are seeing the traditionally individualistic worldview of America beginning to crumble.  We have always known the value in promoting prosperity and peace for ourselves, but now we begin to ask, does that extend to our neighbors too?

“Oneness” is a principle not commonly discussed beyond spiritual circles, and it has now become a primary linchpin of political discourse.  What is the point of extreme division, either via racial, national, or political lines?  Should we or can we wish the same for others we wish for ourselves?  Why would discrimination and inequalities continue to make sense in a world that is rapidly embodying the inter-connectivity and speed of communication that has always existed under the collective surface…

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activism

Marching is the Start

This is the force that will change the world.

I truly believe that. Women and those who stand with women in genuine solidarity will be the impetus that forces changes that have been too long in the making. Spreading love, compassion, and tolerance as opposed to bigotry and separation consciousness is not the purview of special snowflakes or “weak crybabies.” It’s actually the hardest thing we will ever do or ever undertake on this planet of ours.

It is much harder to love and accept the neighbor you disagree with than to spurn and hate them. Liberalism and conservatism are false divides and beyond the point in the larger picture of this planetary play of ours.

What is in our hearts? What is it that we really want to see?

These should be the questions we ask of ourselves and each other everyday. We may differ on how we wish to achieve it or the political talking points but partnering to create movement and change is the important part, even on a very small micro-scale or individual level, regardless of the inevitable dissent and bumps along the way.  And those who oppose equal rights and tolerance for all should be opposed with all the might and force of our ancestors behind us who lived this reality and rejected it.

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Manifestation

Don’t Resolve, Manifest in 2017

Happy 2017!

New Years’ resolutions`are a common cornerstone of our experience at this time of year.  It’s like we feel naked without them.  They are a placeholder to hang our hats and say we’re starting anew, completely fresh.  We’ve gotten through the tough spots last year (we’re over it), and we’re ready to greet the new year with action and vigor.

The problem is our resolutions quickly lose steam by winter’s end, and self-criticism takes up residence.  While there are no perfect formulas for creating and attracting the changes you desire in your life, the idea of manifestation and allowing goodness to flow into our lives, rather than resolving and “making it happen,” is more aligned with creating desires that actually show up and stick in our physical lives.  Manifestation has become a big buzzword in New-Age circles thanks to books like The Secret, but what is commonly misunderstood about manifestation is that things don’t magically appear from midair through intent alone.   Rather, it is a process of continually coming into greater and greater alignment with the things that you desire and signaling to the Universe your persistence and strength in your belief that they are already flowing to you at all moments in time.

I find that the better I get at allowing rather than doing, my path to manifestation becomes clearer and clearer.  Seeming “coincidences” appear that push me down the right path, even if I never knew that path was available.  It still never happens with a snap of the fingers.  The process requires that I constantly bring myself back to a place of inner stillness, clear away old fear beliefs (that seem to be a bottomless pit) of not being worthy of or able to receive the biggest things that I want, and reassess what it is that I actually want or why I am “striving” for it.


Here’s what I have learned so far about manifestation….

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General, Manifestation

How Trump is Healing Us (Hear me out…)

In the now three-week wake of the recent U.S. election outcome, people, on both sides of the aisle, are still feeling unsettled, sad, angry, and divided, with families splitting, increased hate speech and crimes, and protests continuing in response to one of the most divisive campaigns from a presidential candidate and now President-elect in history.

So how in the world, you ask, is this healing?

I’ll tell you…it’s because we are finally viewing our collective national and ancestral wounds out in the open.

They are emerging front and center, whether we like it or not, and we are finally having a good, long look at the pain and division under the collective surface. One of the first principles of any good therapy or healing work is that we cannot heal what we are unaware of. Whether you ascribe to cognitive behavioral therapy, psychodynamic theory, or spiritual shadow work, one cannot change what remains hidden and avoided, whether you label them as negative core beliefs, unconscious wounding, or the”shadow self.” It’s the first step in the process of acknowledging, “yes, there is a problem, and yes, I am willing to look at it.”

So, we are no longer sweeping it under the carpet…

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Quotes

Halloween Contemplations

“Yet man dies not whilst the world, at once his mother and his monument, remains.

His name is lost, indeed, but the breath he breathed still stirs the pine-tops on the mountains, the sound of the words he spake yet echoes on through space; the thoughts his brain gave birth to we have inherited to-day; his passions are our cause of life; the joys and sorrows that he knew are our familiar friends—the end from which he fled aghast will surely overtake us also!

Truly the universe is full of ghosts, not sheeted church-yard spectres, but the inextinguishable elements of individual life, which having once been, can never die, though they blend and change, and change again for ever.”

~H. Rider Haggard, King Solomon’s Mines