Emotional Healing

Finding Harmony with the Inner Critic

Our internal house can sometimes harbor different voices, different perspectives on the same circumstance.  When we are at war within, how can we truly know how we feel?

For instance, take my decision to open my private practice…part of me was thrilled and excited, ready for the adventure that comes from entrepreneurship.  Another part of me was terrified and negative, certain that this was a silly decision.  In the end, my internal cheerleader and risk-taker won the battle, placating my inner critic with the reasoning that I could always return to a 9-5 position if it didn’t work out.

But how are we to deal with our internal landscape, when we can have differing opinions and emotions towards the same circumstance?  It’s difficult enough to deal with external feedback, let alone be split into opposing teams within ourselves.

I’ve come to call this more fearful part of myself the “inner critic,” or sometimes, my “inner skeptic.”  This is the part of me that has internalized messages, likely from a young age, of fear and lack from the broader cultural landscape, or from personal experiences.  It’s the part of myself that worries about finances, takes to heart stories of failure or loss, or worries about potential or actualized missteps.

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Career Calling, Personal Stories

The Achievement Wheel

The achievement wheel is a treasured American institution.  We are groomed early on in a structured education system to strive for that golden place of success defined by titles and prestige, our own small piece of the American dream.  As the 2010 documentary “Race to Nowhere” points out, these pressured expectations have been produced and reinforced by the culture at large, from colleges to parents to workplaces, and these messages get internalized by kids from a young age.  Many of us continue on this treadmill of achievement and expectations long after we have left grammar school and grades behind…

And I was no exception.

After perfecting my high school educational manifesto and making my way through an Ivy League college degree, the next obvious step for me seemed to be the world of cubicles and commuting.  When I took my first job in 2006 as an entry-level publicist at a corporate book publishing company in New York City, I thought I had made it.

And I had…in a way.

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General

Interviews and News

As the new year is in full swing, I’m looking back at the past month or two and am grateful for the opportunities that popped up to share more of my story and talk about psychology, energy healing and women.  

In December, Joanna Chan and I were interviewed on WBAI The Positive Mind radio show in New York City in anticipation of our December 13th womens’ event, Trusting Transition.

We had a small intimate ground of women discussing and sharing their own paths and hopes for moving forward in the New Year.  Through energy healing, intention-setting, discussing needs and values, and guided meditations we all (even Joanna and I!) made shifts to set us up for the fresh energy of 2018.  

On the Positive Mind radio show, Joanna and I got to speak more about women in transition, our own personal transitions, and how to confront fears and blocks to change.  We even spoke about how focused intention-setting and groups of women coming together in support of one another can be powerful to elicit changes.  Listen here (part of the audio on the recording gets cut off in the beginning, so to skip that part start at about 3 min in):

Then, on December 31st, I was pleased to debut an interview with my friend and meditation facilitator, Jeff Carreira.  In the discussion, we go in all different directions, speaking about Jeff’s kundalini awakening, my kundalini experience, what starts to happen after kundalini awakens in the body, and what specifically started to unfold for me afterwards.  We also talk more about energy healing and the future of psychology as we start to learn more about and understand these sorts of phenomena as a culture.

To listen, click here: 

https://jeffcarreira.com/kundalini-awakening-tara-cuskley/webcast-replay/

If you are in the midst of navigating your own kundalini awakening, or have questions over how to do so, consider trying a transpersonal coaching session: http://healrenewtherapy.com/transpersonal-coaching/

Or email me at drtaracuskley @ healrenew.com for a 20-minute free phone consult.

Spirituality

The Return of the Light

At this time of the year, with the Winter Solstice behind us and the new year around the corner, we are assured a return of the light.  We’ve lived through the shortest day of the year and have made it past our descent into the dark.  While we are still fully encapsulated in winter, daylight becomes more and more prominent from now until the summer season.

These seasonal cycles were once honored by ancient cultures for the distinct energy they would bring into our lives.  Spring is a time of rebirth, summer is a time of youthful exuberance and planting seeds, fall brings the harvest and decline of the light, and winter is a time of hibernation, contemplation and gathering our strength for the inevitable rebirth.

Cultures, like the ancient Druids and other pagan traditions, who celebrated Solstice and seasonal rites of passage were wise in their recognition of the seasonal cycle as representative of the human narrative as a whole.  There are seasons to our lives, descents and ascents.  There are times for deeper lessons and karmic experiences and times for jubilation, emergence, and a celebration of cycles completed.  As we deepen our winter burrowing, we are in preparation for the the journey back to our rebirth in the Spring.

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Emotional Enlightenment

What Are You Here for?

It’s the age-old question, the source of our existential angst….

Ultimately, it’s a much bigger question than can really be answered in a blog post, or even two or three.

But I’ll give it a try…

So why are you here?  What are you doing here in this body?  Why are you here, in this spacesuit of skin and bones, looking through your eyes?

It’s clear that the identities and meaning we create through social media aren’t always the authentic version of ourselves, and the freedoms we have sought through the mobile worlds at our fingertips sometimes only serve to keep us more bound up in one version of reality.  We have created a vast world for ourselves through technology in the name of broader horizons, yet have somehow managed to stuff our true selves deeper down into hidden places, far beyond the online profiles and photo collages.

Engaging with technology requires us to constantly engage with stimulation outside of ourselves, to seek answers outside of ourselves.  We think perhaps we can fill the many voids and spaces within us with the knowledge gained through this continuous engagement with information and content.  But what if all the answers we seek already lie within?

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Personal Stories, Spirituality

How Spirituality Found Me (a former skeptic)

I’ve contemplated writing about my spiritual awakening experience for a while now, but it has never quite felt like the right time.   Words aren’t always adequate to capture an experience that’s both deeply personal and is best understood as a felt, embodied sense rather than something that can be described and analyzed.  But I am going to try my best because it feels important to begin sharing how my own path has included twists and turns for those who may have had their own interesting, unexplainable experiences.

I grew up within the Catholic religion, experiencing all the prescribed milestones throughout my childhood: Baptism, First Communion, and Confirmation.   I even had the opportunity to visit the Vatican and see the pope from afar in my teens. While I always appreciated the rich tradition that Catholicism provided, beautiful religious art and architecture especially, as I grew into my late teens and early 20’s I began to look at religion as a cultural signpost, a representation of my heritage, rather than as a spiritual tradition.   I recognized that religion did provide spiritual support for many and good moral foundations, but it had never fully connected the dots for me and the dogma didn’t seem to fit my developing sense of self-autonomy.  And so I left it at that….without the drive to explore further, I labeled myself as agnostic in my young adulthood and visited Church only on holidays.

Science and research became another “religion” of sorts for me in my late 20’s as I entered graduate school for psychology.  It seemed to provide solidity in a way that was comforting, in a way that I could get behind.  There was a prescribed sequence of inquiry, analysis, and data that research provided.  My analytical left brain found satisfaction and excitement in finding new ways to explore the world of human nature through reading, citing, and conducting research.  I felt like I had a greater understanding of the world, a foundation from which to base my decisions, actions, and worldview.  And I did….but little did I know, as I entered my final year of graduate school, that things were about to get a whole lot less linear.

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General

Now offering Skype Coaching and Healing Sessions

I’m excited to announce that I am now offering more remote coaching and energy healing service for those outside of New York State…

Are you looking for a clearing and reset of your energy field and a deeper dive into removing the mental, emotional, and energetic blocks holding you back from moving forward?  Are you looking for a deeper insight into subconscious core beliefs and intuitive guidance on specific life concerns?  Try an Energy Renewal session: http://healrenewtherapy.com/energy-psychology-1/

Do you want to refine your life goals and create your next steps in alignment with your highest vision and path?  Are you a spiritual seeker or on a healing path looking to get in tune with your own higher guidance, define your soul-based values, or dive deeper into shadow work and clear old beliefs or traumas?  Try online Skype transpersonal coaching sessions, which blend a focus on your everyday life goals with the path your Soul is destined to take: http://healrenewtherapy.com/transpersonal-coaching/

Tara Cuskley, Psy. D. is a licensed psychologist, Reiki Master, and energy healer based in New York City. For more information, visit: http://www.healrenewtherapy.com

Or contact drtaracuskley@healrenew.com to schedule.

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